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A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds, “What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined.  See what you think:

“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore.  So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too.  That’s love.” Rebecca – age 8

When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different.  You know that your name is safe in their mouth.” Billy – age 4

“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” Chrissy – age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.” Terri – age 4

Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” Danny – age 7

“Love is when you kiss all the time.  Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more.  My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss” Emily – age 8

“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen,” Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)

“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,” Nikka – age 6

“There are two kinds of love.  Our love.  God’s love. But God makes both kinds of them.” Jenny – age 8

“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy – age 6

“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared.  I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.  He was the only one doing that.  I wasn’t scared anymore,” Cindy – age 8

“My mommy loves me more than anybody.  You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.” Clare – age 6

“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” Elaine -age 5

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” Chris – age 7

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” Mary Ann – age 4

“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” Lauren – age 4

“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.” Mark – age 6

“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it.  But if you mean it, you should say it a lot.  People forget,” Jessica – age 8

Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge.  The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.  The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife.  Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked him what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, “Nothing, I just helped him cry.”

Saya selalu mengibaratkan cinta itu seperti sebuah pohon. Perlu proses untuk tumbuh! Kalo menurut peribahasa jawa, witing tresno jalaran soko kulino. Cinta tumbuh seiring dengan kebersamaan – bisa diartikan juga sebagai komunikasi – yang terus menerus. Jadi tidak serta merta datang langsung besar.

Seperti pohon pula, cinta tentu diawali dengan benih-benih. Getar-getar awal ketika pertama kali bertemu, tanda adanya suatu benih cinta dihati. Supaya benih ini tumbuh, menjadi pohon cinta yang kokoh dan kuat, perlu diberi pupuk dan disiram. Seperti layaknya pohon juga kadang semakin tinggi dan kokoh dia tumbuh, terpaan angin akan semakin kencang pula. Berbagai godaan hendak menumbangkan pohon cinta ini. Tapi dengan kokohnya akar yang mencengkram relung hati, insyaAllah, cinta ini akan tetap kokoh berdiri.

Memang, tidak semua cinta akan cepat tumbuhnya, kadang ada yang perlahan dan lambat, dibutuhkan kesabaran dan ketelatenan untuk merawatnya. Berbagai pupuk harus diberi, pupuk pengertian, pupuk ketulusan dan yang penting pupuk kepercayaan. Terus disiram dengan candaan, kehangatan dan senyuman makin menguatkan pohon cinta ini. Perlu juga diberi anti hama, supaya virus-virus yang bisa membuat cinta mati bisa hilang. Anti-selingkuh salah satunya. Itu adalah anti hama yang harus ditanamkan dalam hati.

Tapi yang palin penting, untuk menumbuhkan pohon cinta ini dibutuhkan komitmen yang kuat dari pasangan yang akan menanam benih cinta ini. Kalau satu saja merasa lelah, maka cinta ini akan tak terawat, dan kemudian mati…

Cinta seperti pohon, tak perlu alasan untuk tumbuh

Hanya perlu dipupuk dan disiram untuk tetap hidup

Setelah tumbuh, tak bisa dicabut begitu saja

Karena akarnya tertanam kokoh dan menjalar di dalam hati

Terkadang cinta seperti rumput liar

Tumbuh tak diinginkan, jika dibiarkan makin tinggi dan merajalela

Cabut sebelum semakin menggila dan merusak relung jiwa

jika tak bisa, mungkin bisa ditata dan dirawat untuk menghias taman hati.

Sekarang saya bertanya, kenapa kamu biarkan benih cinta itu mati, tanpa berikan kesempatan untuk tumbuh menjadi pohon cinta? Kenapa kamu hentikan pupuk dan siraman air yang dibutuhkan agar tetap tumbuh dan menghasilkan buah cinta?

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